Couples Counseling in Idaho Falls
You’ve been trying for a long time to change things. You’ve probably talked to friends and doctors, listened to podcasts, read books, and more. Maybe things change temporarily, but they keep reverting back to the way they were. The truth is you need professional help, someone who knows what it takes to help you create the relationships and life you’re wanting. But, how do you find an expert couples counselor who you can genuinely connect with?
Hi, my name is Takoma Lindsay (PhD, LMFT) and I specialize in couples counseling in Idaho Falls. Finding the right therapist can be difficult! Before I became a therapist, my wife and I saw six different therapists before finding someone who was helpful. Through finding a specialized couples counselor and my own journey of becoming a therapist, we learned how to create a profoundly deep connection that we didn’t even know was possible. Now, I’m determined to help couples and individuals heal from the past and experience that same level of connection! My approach focuses on helping you identify the roots underlying your issues and experience deep connection in your relationships. I offer expertise in couples counseling through many advanced trainings, certification in Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy (the gold-standard model for couples counseling), and extensive experience working with couples.
Counseling works! Together, we’ll uncover the deeper issues beneath the surface, heal old wounds, and create the relationship and life you’ve always wanted. I witness people transform pain and disconnection into profound connection all the time–yet, sadly, the average person struggles for seven years before seeking couples counseling. Please, don’t wait any longer! Choose today to take the first step towards healing and connection by scheduling a free discovery visit. You deserve a relationship and life that’s not just tolerable, but thriving!
My Journey to Finding True Connection
I thought I was going to be the greatest husband–but I was wrong. I quickly fell into the same traps most men and couples encounter, but it took me a while to realize it. Initially, I thought I was a great husband. My wife struggled with anxiety and I was high-functioning, so it was easy for both of us to blame any issues to her anxiety. After a couple of years, my wife finally started to speak up and not take the blame for things anymore. We started fighting a lot more, but this challenging period ultimately sent us on a life-changing journey to build a truly incredible marriage!
We all bring positive and negative coping mechanisms and responses from our upbringing into our adult relationships. We learn the best we can from our experience growing up, and then with little to no direction, we do our best. Is it any surprise then that the divorce rate is so high and even more couples remain unhappy? For example, my childhood experience taught me that I need to suppress my emotions, be strong and deal with stuff myself, and work hard to provide for my family. I thought that was the blueprint to be a good husband and I was surprised when it didn’t work.
About the same time we got married, I decided I wanted to become a therapist. Having never experienced therapy myself, my wife and I decided to try couples counseling. We jumped from therapist to therapist because we couldn’t find someone who specialized in couples counseling. We eventually gave up on counseling and went to graduate school to become a therapist. The introspective work of becoming a therapist highlighted my weaknesses. As I began talking with my wife about these insights, she then started speaking up more. We then finally found an expert couples counselor! The combination of couples counseling and becoming a therapist was intense and difficult, but it allowed us to heal and connect in ways we never knew were possible. We were learning about true connection.
We have been on this journey for years now and our relationship is night and day better than it was before. My capacity to love and be loved has grown exponentially. The amount of growth we have experienced in the years since therapy is truly amazing, and I cannot imagine the deeper love we will cultivate in another 5, 10, 20, and 40 years as we continue to experience true connection. I have now witnessed countless relationships break their cycle of pain and find healing and connection they didn’t know was possible.
Please schedule a free discovery visit today so I can guide you through your unique struggles and help you experience true connection!
Expert Training and Experience
Effectiveness of EFT for Couples
When looking for a couples counseling you want an approach that is not only compassionate but also is proven to be effective. Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy is becoming the gold-standard for couples counseling and the most updated research shows that 90% of couples significantly improve and 70% resolve their issues completely (Spengler et al., 2024). These improvements have also been shown to last over time.
As a certified Emotion-Focused Couples Therapist I am expertly trained and experienced in the model. EFT is built on the science of adult attachment, which recognizes that humans are innately wired to seek secure connection with their partners. When that connection is threatened, it can trigger cycles of conflict, distance, and distress. My role is to help you identify the underlying reasons why your relationship is struggling, and to not only help you repair your attachment bond, but also deepen it. Couples counseling with me is more than just communication skills, it’s about transforming your level of intimacy.
Intentionally Improving My Effectiveness
Client outcomes vary greatly between therapists and most therapists peak only 2 years after graduate school, meaning their client’s outcomes do not improve as they gain more experience (Germer et al., 2022). To ensure I am continually getting better, I follow the three practices shown to separate the most effective therapists from the average:
- Administering weekly surveys asking clients for feedback improves therapy success rates by up to 29% (Barkham et al., 2023). My clients complete a short survey each week to provide me with more insight into their therapy experience and to track their growth.
- Studying “film” or recorded therapy sessions helps therapists continually refine their skills. I regularly record, review, and delete my therapy sessions allowing me to review and learn from key moments.
- Deliberate practice, or selecting and practicing a therapeutic skill, also has been shown to improve therapy outcomes. Each month I choose a skill and review my progress towards becoming a more refined therapist.
As a therapist I am my best tool, and these intentional efforts are to ensure my clients get the highest quality care possible.
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